How has this year flown by SO fast? It feels like we got married just yesterday but it was actually 365 days ago. That just blows my mind! It’s still so surreal that look back at how far we have come – from young kids in college who had no idea what they were doing with their lives and no purpose in sight. To married adults with passions, motivations, responsibilities, achievements and true purposes.
The people we are today would not even recognize the people we started out as and it is only by the complete grace of God.
As I look back on this first year of marriage, on our (small) disaster of a wedding, on our struggles, our mountains and our incredible successes all I see is love, true love. Love between two broken people who not only needed each other so deeply but who also desperately needed guidance, encouragement, hope and love from the one true love of our lives.
If there is one thing that this year has taught us, it is that God is SO good!
Ups and Downs
Our marriage started off with a bit of a rollercoaster ride that had flown straight off the track. We had an absolutely beautiful wedding, full of love, joy, excitement and above all the Holy Spirit. We really tried to create an atmosphere that displayed God’s love for us all and that shepherded us into what we truly consider a “holy” matrimony. We have been raised to highly respect the covenant of marriage, because it is a representation of our relationship with Christ and the relationships that God designed for us to exist within.
So for us this was more than just a wedding, this was a celebration of our utmost commitment to each other and to God and the guidelines He had laid out for our future.
Our ceremony was heavenly, it was filled with worship, prayer, spoken truths, promises, and incredible blessings all surrounded by the people who meant the most to us in the world.
Our reception was where things started to fall apart. All of the issues that arose, the arguments, and the attitudes may have crushed us on that day but a year on we see them as the biggest blessing we possibly could have been given.
It gave us fresh eyes and a new perspective on the world around us. It helped us to appreciate the little moments, the small blessings, and the hidden gifts in our everyday lives that we normally would not see. It also armed us to take on a year of changes, disruptions and new beginnings.
They say that the first year of marriage is often the hardest and the toughest test on your relationship. In one way I agree, we encountered a ton of difficulties that I’m sure many couples will including managing finances, adjusting to the change in dynamics and changes to our work life. We also encountered a lot of difficulties that most couples don’t have to worry about like major health problems that throw your plans completely off track.
On the other hand, I think the first year was also full of SO much joy even in the midst of the pain. This past year has brought us so much closer together and helped us really form an ironclad bond that cannot be broken. We are truly two pieces of one heart that beats in sync. We have never been happier, or more at peace, we have never felt so hopeful for what the future holds and we have never felt more connected to our faith.
Changes In Plan
In the seven years we have been together, we have never encountered so many changes, left turns, detours and reroutes as we have this year. It has been such an eye-opening experience that we really needed and I think it was one of the most important lessons we learnt.
We have always been sticklers for keeping to our plans and doing everything we can to plan out every last little moment. We’ve never been great at just going with the flow and God knew that we needed to let that go. So he used this year of growth to teach us life can change at the drop of a hat and all you can do is adjust and keep on moving.
What you thought was important may not have been worth it after all and His plan will always be better.
All of the changes you encounter are leading you to your purpose, to the place that you are destined to be. The place where all of your talents will shine their brightest and all of your dreams will come to fruition. It’s amazing to see and feel this happening and it’s even more incredible when you can take that journey with your best friend in the whole world at your side.
This year has truly been incredible and we both feel so blessed to be where we are today. We are happier than ever, we are healthy, we have a home and we are loved.
At the end of the day we look back and just feel so lucky to be loved by such an incredible God who has gifted us with such wonderful lives and trusted us with what He has planted within our hearts. We know that marriage is definitely not easy but with God in the centre and our eyes fixed on Him we cannot fail.
We are going to spend the day focusing on all the good that we have and enjoying the time we have together. We will be celebrating in the best way we know how – with a disney movie, a pizza and a glass of wine.